20 September 2012

Money brings random thoughts

Soon there will only be one person working in our home + an additional (cute little) mouth to feed. No we haven't hit rock bottom, nor anywhere close in comparison to those who really do need help. We've NEVER taken advantage of government assistance. It's easy to think, "Let's just sign up for this, so we can get this for FREEEE!", but we have reminded ourselves that there are others who must need it more than us, even though we struggle too. And struggling isn't bad either. (We ARE grateful for the help we do receive) You can still indulge once in a while, if you play your cards right and plan out finances. We do, we treat ourselves. You're not human if you don't. We also go to garage sales, shop on the clearance rack, use coupons, research deals......you don't HAVE to be "rich" to have nice things.

I know come October, I will miss working. I've loved working since my first job in high school. Even with James working, I still felt more secure with me also contributing to the money pot. And if you're capable of working, work! (If not, don't sweat it) Thankfully, Heavenly Father has blessed us with family nearby whose schedules have worked perfectly in times when our work schedules conflict. I love being a Mom too, and to me, a part of my love is financially providing for my babies.

Sometimes I look at someone's high income earning job and KNOW I am just as capable. Sometimes as I'm dying in the heat of our Ford Taurus (ac has been broken), I look over and yearn for a glossy new car. Sometimes I want to walk into Sephora and splurge like I was single and carefree. Sometimes I wish I had my own house to call my own, to decorate, to clean, to restock supplies, to cook new yummy meals, to escape to. The list could go on.

Welcome to the humble road.
But how beautiful it still can be with what we'll learn and grow from at this part in our lives. Just remember: 1) What matters most? 2) All things come according to Heavenly Father's time :)
President Gordon B. Hinckley on motherhood:
“Most of you are mothers, and very many of you are grandmothers and even great-grandmothers. You have walked the sometimes painful, sometimes joyous path of parenthood. You have walked hand in hand with God in the great process of bringing children into the world that they might experience this estate along the road of immortality and eternal life. It has not been easy rearing a family. Most of you have had to sacrifice and skimp and labor night and day. As I think of you and your circumstances, I think of the words of Anne Campbell, who wrote as she looked upon her children:

You are the trip I did not take;

You are the pearls I cannot buy;

You are my blue Italian lake;

You are my piece of foreign sky.

(“To My Child,” quoted in Charles L. Wallis, ed., The Treasure Chest [1965], 54)

You [mothers] are the real builders of the nation wherever you live, for you have created homes of strength and peace and security. These become the very sinew of any nation.”
       - Gordon B. Hinckley, “Women of the Church,” Ensign, Nov 1996, 67


  1. How can I say how much I love this post?! This has just been on my mind a whole lot lately, and especially with me splurging at Ulta. I hadn't been makeup shopping since February, and even then so I didn't have an income because of no=income training.

    I'm grateful that even though I hate flying in airplanes all the time, I still have a job that pays my bills and allows me to actually have a good reliable car with automatic windows lol. You know what though, even if I do have a good job now that pays, it doesn't fill in the emotional and spiritual side for me. I wish I just had a family. And seriously mama, YOU ARE AMAZING. For being a full-time mom, graduated college, still preggoz and working full-time, AND on top of that you still make time to look fabulous, I totally wish I could be more like you anyday!!!

    And besides, humble beginnings with less money makes thrifting a lot funner :) And it forces u to stay home more (at least for me it does lol) and makes me get more creative at eating at home, and actually cooking for myself lol cuz I'm too lazy to cook.

  2. Ahhh I love the quote by Charles Wallis! I can't tell you how important I think it is for young families with kids to walk the humble road for a while. Mike and I are ok now but when we were both in school we couldn't even afford dishes. We used the ones from my single days that my mom gave me. Even though it's tough and I sometimes get jealous wishing that I could travel more or wear nicer clothes, it does make you grateful for all of the good things that you do have.

  3. Ashlyn, I empathize with you about the worries of not working anymore and the whole financial thing. It's difficult when we want to buy new things but we can't afford it! I quit my job a month ago because I couldn't really take time off with that job and Micah and I wanted to spend more time with each other because he will be deployed sometime next year. But I do miss having disposable income sooo much. It's a struggle for me! I want new clothes and stuff all the time lol. But I am learning to embrace this whole budgeting thing. We've been eating better because of it. We eat at home and its healthier compared to eating out all the time like we used to. I also have been more crafty and nifty to cut costs with furniture and house stuff. But I have really enjoyed doing these things! So I have actually learned to embrace this trial in my life. Just know that you can too! You are not the only one dealing with this =D